Redefining.Impossible

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I crave space. It charges my batteries. It helps me breathe. Being around people can be so exhausting, because most of them love to take and barely know how to give. Except for a rare few.
Katie Kacvinsky, First Comes Love (via larmoyante)

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grapingfeminists:

cynicalsunflower:

That feminist parody, “Defined Lines”, was fucking disgusting. I don’t think it should have been removed from YouTube, because freedom of speech and all. However… Blurred Lines and Defined Lines were completely different. Blurred Lines didn’t demean anyone, for a start…
Let’s compare shall we?:
Blurred Lines:
"He was close, tried to domesticate you, but you’re an animal, baby, it’s in your nature, just let me liberate you."
Here, Thicke outright says that women are not pets, and that she should not let this man “domesticate” her. He wants her to be liberated. Not domesticated like a pet.The YouTube comment seen in the picture says about calling women animals as though it was done in a bad way. It’s meant to suggest that she’s wild and free, thus should not be “domesticated”.
"That man is not your maker."
States that she doesn’t need this man in her life.
"You’re far from plastic."
Feminists are constantly moaning about how this song objectified women when it outright says ”you’re far from plastic”. He is pointing out that this woman is a person, not an object.
"The way you grab me, must wanna get nasty, go ahead, get at me."
She has initiated sexual contact between them. If she has initiated this, it suggests that she does indeed “wanna get nasty”. Now, yes, it’s a bit much to say she must want to get nasty, and I’d be able to see that it’s presumptuous there if not for the next line. He does not say that he is going to act on it. He does not say that this assumption is all he needs. He does not say that due to this he intends to hold her down and screw her whether she protests or not. What he does say, is “Go ahead, get at me”. He is inviting her to initiate more if she wants more.
There is so much feminist complaint about women being naked in this video. In this case, it’s objectification and disgusting, however when done in feminist protests like “slut walks”, it’s “empowering” and a woman’s choice. Funny how that changes.
Defined Lines:
"Boy, you better quit all your sexist ways."
Very ironic in this song considering that they stereotype men as being sexist, being sexist themselves.
"Let me emasculate you"
Very different from Blurred Lines, in which he says “Let me liberate you”. No. These women are out to emasculate the men.
"Prepare for your castration"
A threat of genital mutilation. Nothingof this sort is found in Blurred Lines. This is over the top and disgusting.
"Not fucking plastic"
Who said you were?! Not Robin Thicke, certainly, as his song agrees that women aren’t plastic. 
"It’s straight up misogyny"
Where was the misogyny? Robin Thicke seemed to be loving women, and talking about how they are people of their own who don’t need men, particularly ones who try to domesticate them.
"Don’t want you to come on my face"
Fair enough. It’s not for everyone. Some women like it when men come on their face. Why is this in a feminist song? It’s personal preference and has nothing to do with feminism, misogyny, or Robin Thicke’s song.
"You think you’re hunky"
Degrading/mocking him by insinuating that he is unattractive and that he thinks a lot of himself.
"You wanna hug me? Don’t you mean fuck me?"
Not only is this presumptuous, but also could be taken in rape-y way. He said he wants to hug you, and you just assume that means he wants to fuck you. If you can get rape from “I know you want it”, you can get it from this, considering that these feminists, too, are assuming he wants it.
"One thing I ask of you, don’t assume that we all just wanna screw."
This is so incredibly ironic. It comes directly after the lines “You wanna hug me? Don’t you mean fuck me?” You are assuming he wants to screw you, and yet asking him not to do the same to you? Oh yeah, and then later on in the song “know all you wanna do is fertilize”. Double. Standard.
"Time for you to witness our liberation"
That’s what he suggested in the first place… It’s not like he was opposed to it…
Not to mention.. Here’s an idea.. Maybe, the sexual content was not the men in boxers, but a feminist shoving a sex toy in a man’s mouth. And talking about vibrators. And landing strips. Being on all fours. Coming on faces. Castration. Yeah. That isn’t exactly appropriate. But yeah I’m suuuuurrreee it’s just a double standard.

Probably the best deconstruction of both videos I have seen.

grapingfeminists:

cynicalsunflower:

That feminist parody, “Defined Lines”, was fucking disgusting. I don’t think it should have been removed from YouTube, because freedom of speech and all. However… Blurred Lines and Defined Lines were completely different. Blurred Lines didn’t demean anyone, for a start…

Let’s compare shall we?:

Blurred Lines:

"He was close, tried to domesticate you, but you’re an animal, baby, it’s in your nature, just let me liberate you."

Here, Thicke outright says that women are not pets, and that she should not let this man “domesticate” her. He wants her to be liberated. Not domesticated like a pet.
The YouTube comment seen in the picture says about calling women animals as though it was done in a bad way. It’s meant to suggest that she’s wild and free, thus should not be “domesticated”.

"That man is not your maker."

States that she doesn’t need this man in her life.

"You’re far from plastic."

Feminists are constantly moaning about how this song objectified women when it outright says ”you’re far from plastic”. He is pointing out that this woman is a person, not an object.

"The way you grab me, must wanna get nasty, go ahead, get at me."

She has initiated sexual contact between them. If she has initiated this, it suggests that she does indeed “wanna get nasty”. Now, yes, it’s a bit much to say she must want to get nasty, and I’d be able to see that it’s presumptuous there if not for the next line. He does not say that he is going to act on it. He does not say that this assumption is all he needs. He does not say that due to this he intends to hold her down and screw her whether she protests or not. What he does say, is “Go ahead, get at me”. He is inviting her to initiate more if she wants more.

There is so much feminist complaint about women being naked in this video. In this case, it’s objectification and disgusting, however when done in feminist protests like “slut walks”, it’s “empowering” and a woman’s choice. Funny how that changes.

Defined Lines:

"Boy, you better quit all your sexist ways."

Very ironic in this song considering that they stereotype men as being sexist, being sexist themselves.

"Let me emasculate you"

Very different from Blurred Lines, in which he says “Let me liberate you”. No. These women are out to emasculate the men.

"Prepare for your castration"

A threat of genital mutilation. Nothingof this sort is found in Blurred Lines. This is over the top and disgusting.

"Not fucking plastic"

Who said you were?! Not Robin Thicke, certainly, as his song agrees that women aren’t plastic. 

"It’s straight up misogyny"

Where was the misogyny? Robin Thicke seemed to be loving women, and talking about how they are people of their own who don’t need men, particularly ones who try to domesticate them.

"Don’t want you to come on my face"

Fair enough. It’s not for everyone. Some women like it when men come on their face. Why is this in a feminist song? It’s personal preference and has nothing to do with feminism, misogyny, or Robin Thicke’s song.

"You think you’re hunky"

Degrading/mocking him by insinuating that he is unattractive and that he thinks a lot of himself.

"You wanna hug me? Don’t you mean fuck me?"

Not only is this presumptuous, but also could be taken in rape-y way. He said he wants to hug you, and you just assume that means he wants to fuck you. If you can get rape from “I know you want it”, you can get it from this, considering that these feminists, too, are assuming he wants it.

"One thing I ask of you, don’t assume that we all just wanna screw."

This is so incredibly ironic. It comes directly after the lines “You wanna hug me? Don’t you mean fuck me?” You are assuming he wants to screw you, and yet asking him not to do the same to you? Oh yeah, and then later on in the song “know all you wanna do is fertilize”. Double. Standard.

"Time for you to witness our liberation"

That’s what he suggested in the first place… It’s not like he was opposed to it…

Not to mention.. Here’s an idea.. Maybe, the sexual content was not the men in boxers, but a feminist shoving a sex toy in a man’s mouth. And talking about vibrators. And landing strips. Being on all fours. Coming on faces. Castration. Yeah. That isn’t exactly appropriate. But yeah I’m suuuuurrreee it’s just a double standard.

Probably the best deconstruction of both videos I have seen.

(Source: yiffjpg, via bhickencig)